Meghan Markle revealed this week that she suffered a miscarriage this past Summer. The former Duchess of Sussex described the “almost unbearable grief” it caused her and husband Prince Harry in a NY Times personal essay.
The Duchess of Sussex recalled feeling a “sharp pain” on an ordinary morning in July while changing one-year-old son Archie’s diaper at home in California.
“I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right,” she wrote. “I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second.”
“In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have suffered from miscarriage,” she wrote. “Yet despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning.
The former royal member who gave up her title for a life of relative normalcy said, “This year has brought so many of us to our breaking points. Loss and pain have plagued every one of us in 2020, in moments both fraught and debilitating.”
Referring to an interview with British journalist Tom Bradby in Africa in September 2019 where he moved her with the simple question, “Are you OK?”, Markle said, “So this Thanksgiving, as we plan for a holiday unlike any before — many of us separated from our loved ones, alone, sick, scared, divided and perhaps struggling to find something, anything, to be grateful for — let us commit to asking others, ‘Are you OK?’” she wrote.
“Are we OK? We will be,” she insisted.